We all have that little nagging voice in our head that can tell us we’ll never make it, never lose weight, finish our degree or tells us that we don’t measure up. Negative self-talk can have an impact on the quality of your life and may actually hold you back from achieving your goals. Often we’re not even aware of the things that little voice tells us throughout each day. Cultivating a new way of speaking to ourselves is needed. This post is about the many benefits of positive self-talk.
There are proven ways to silence that inner critic. Follow the ten tips below and create a new positive and encouraging voice that will help build your confidence and manifest the life you’ve dreamed of!
Using positive affirmations can help program your mind to speak in a positive voice more often. They are positive statements written in the present tense. You should say them out loud first thing in the morning when you wake up and just before you go to sleep at night as these are the times when your brain is at its most receptive. Regular repetition throughout the day will reinforce the positive messages and help them to become second nature.
It’s important to be aware of that negative voice in your head. Listen to what it is saying and how it is talking to you. If it is constantly a negative message, then you need to take action to turn it into a supportive and positive voice. Listen carefully and when you catch a negative thought appear, respond and rephrase it as a positive statement. Dr. Wayne Dyer used to teach the technique of visualizing a big “cancel” sign when you recognized a negative thought enter your mind, then replace it immediately with a positive thought.
Regular meditation can help you develop greater control over your thoughts and emotions. You will learn how to listen carefully and to quieten your inner voice. This will help you create a sense of calm and peace, lessening stress and anxiety. As you gain greater control over your mind you will be able to silence the negative voice when it starts to speak.
- Be Grateful:
Take time every day to think of at least three things you are grateful for. It’s all too easy to lose yourself in the negative aspects of the day and to give in to the negative voice in your head. Instead focus on the positive and be grateful. Write them down in a journal so that you can remember them and revisit them if needed.
- Change Your Perspective:
Catastrophic thinking can be all too easy and take over in times of stress or anxiety. Instead of spinning out of control and thinking of all the negative outcomes, stand back and look at the situation from a different point of view.
- Distance Yourself:
Create some distance between yourself and your emotions. An effective yet simple way to do this is to think in the third person. So instead of saying to yourself, “I’m really angry with myself because…”, say, “You’re really angry. Why?” By creating psychological distance, a study by Ethan Kross, PhD of the University of Michigan found that participants were able to regulate their emotions and reduce discomfort.
- Say, “I don’t”:
One simple change you can make is to use the phrase, “I don’t,” instead of, “I can’t”. By saying “I don’t” you are taking responsibility and ownership of your thoughts. If you are trying to lose weight then instead of saying, “I can’t eat cake” say, “I don’t eat cake”. The power of this approach was found in a study by Vanessa Patrick at the University of Houston.
- Use NLP, Coaching or Hypnotherapy:
By investing in professional help you will have the benefit of mentoring and accountability. These professionals are able to use a range of tools to help change your subconscious mind and remove blocks, change language and thought patterns and create new positive habits and behaviour.
- Body Language:
Changing your body language can change your outlook and increase your sense of positivity and self-confidence. Stand or sit up straight with your shoulders back, hold your head high and smile. You will feel the difference immediately.
- Use Oracle Cards:
It may sound a little “woo-woo” for some, but oracle cards are a really useful tool to help you connect with your subconscious and also to create change in your life. They include positive inspirational images, affirmations and ideas about how to create change. Pick a card each morning to guide you through the day creating positive change. If you don’t want to use the cards yourself you can get a reading done by a professional oracle reader; many of whom are also coaches, Neuro Linguistic Programming Practitioners or hypnotherapists.
Inner peace can be yours and it is your divine right. Why not try one of the actions below and start experiencing it right now?
Steps You Can Take Now
|Stand up straight, hold your head high, shoulders back and smile. Feel your self-confidence grow.
|Contact a life coach, Neuro Linguistic Practitioner or hypnotherapist. Many give a free initial consultation.
|Take a break, sit, breathe and enjoy the moment. Finish by saying, “I can and I will.” Take action.
How have you created a practice of positive self-talk in your life? What have you found works best for you? I’d love to read your thoughts below.